on being socially available, specifically during the current festivities in the global north/west.
is it rude? to not leave one's room? during holidays? during these holidays I even don't want to name?
there are questions I prefer to reframe for clarity (of e. g. what am I trying to find out with that question).
rude is probably not useful nor precise as a concept or a criteria. too diffuse, too subjective, too culturally charged. I think even fluid entities like social interactions analysis can profit from a bit of logic. probably not a lot of two people, alistic or autist would agree to the same definition and implementation of rude. or people from the same country, similar "class" or whatever that means.
nuance is useful, but concepts which are not precise to nail lack usefulness.
would reframe it as (1)whose and (2) what (a)expectations or explicit/implicit (b)deals might be fulfilled or broken by staying in the room. and then decide.
different if I never agreed to take part in anything cultural habit in the first place, and I already communicated that clearly and often, or if I promised a child to help them with their Lego, or the neighbour with a community project. a lot of other possibilities, these would be extremes.
adenda,i have all the time this discussion with myself, regarding these festivities, including the calendáric one one week from here, and birthdays, including it's expectations of presents.
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