My love language is not being perceived by, nor perceiving, other people.

I like Reductress & read it weekly, enjoying its often witty combo of #feminism & #satire. Unfortunately i feel they missed the mark a bit here, mocking something that is very real for those of us "enjoying" the universe's "gift/s" of #introversion , #SocialAnxiety, #Depression.

https://reductress.com/post/introvert-requires-48-hours-of-alone-time-to-recover-from-15-minute-conversation/

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Introvert Requires 48 Hours of Alone Time to Recover From 15-Minute Conversation

In a developing story out of a darkened bedroom, 28-year-old Alissa Donahue recently returned home after engaging in a brief 15-minute conversation with a coworker, and has now begun her required 48 hours of alone time.

“The conversation was actually really pleasant,” Alissa told reporters. “Unfortunately, it did drain me so much I needed to lie down immediately when I got home, and then not get up for two and a half hours.”

Alissa said that no matter how pleasant a conversation is, she always needs some time to herself to recover.

“Engaging verbally with another human in general just drops my energy levels to zero,” Alissa explained to reporters. “It doesn’t matter if it’s a brief conversation with a coworker or a high-pressure job interview. Either way, I’m going to need to binge watch 18 episodes of Avatar the Last Airbender afterwards just to get right with myself.”

Sources close to Alissa have described socializing with her as “talking to a rapidly melting snowman” and “experientially similar to overwatering a plant.”

“I love chatting with Alissa,” Alissa’s coworker, Jamie, told reporters. “It’s just hard because I feel like I’m killing her. With every second we spend discussing an episode of a show we both watched this weekend, I feel as if I’m stealing energy from her lifeforce and somehow imbuing it into myself.”

Alissa wanted to make it clear that it wasn’t that she found these types of conversations to be unenjoyable, it was just that she didn’t possess the mental and emotional endurance to sustain them for long periods of time.

“I just need to take frequent breaks,” Alissa said. “We can talk about the show we watched this weekend, but it would be best if we did so in one-minute increments over the course of five weeks.”

As of press time, Alissa had finally recovered from the conversation and decided to re-enter the world. However, she ran into her neighbor as she was leaving her apartment and was forced to return inside for another two hours to recover from that 11 second interaction.

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Mich interessieren immer die Menschen hinter den Masken.

Vielleicht auch ein Grund, warum ich mir mit Schauspieler:innen schwertue ...

Wo fängt die Maske an und wo fängt der Mensch an?
https://www.kaffee-kater-mann.net/blog/die-welt-spielt-laut-introvertierte-leise-aber-masken-tragen-wir-alle

Fuckup Night für Introvertierte: Ein Rückblick mit überraschenden Erkenntnissen

https://www.kaffee-kater-mann.net/blog/fuckup-night-fuer-introvertierte-erfahrungsbericht-ueberraschende-erkenntnisse

Burner phone

#Arbeitswelt #Meeting #Introversion - Hört eigentlich irgendjemand zu? - "Als weiteren Frustfaktor in Meetings hat Miro die Ungleichheit zwischen extrovertierten und introvertierten Kollegen ausgemacht. So fühlten sich 67 Prozent der Extrovertierten wohl damit, im Team Ideen zu teilen, und 69 Prozent hätten sich zufrieden gezeigt mit der allgemeinen Beteiligung in ihren Meetings. Bei den Introvertierten brächten hingegen nur 31 Prozent ihre Ideen gern in die Runde ein. Und mit 43 Prozent sei auch weniger als die Hälfte unter ihnen mit der Inklusion zufrieden." - Umfrage des Kollaborationstool-Anbieters Miro - Beitrag von Axel Kannenberg - Eventl. € https://www.heise.de/news/Meetings-Hoert-eigentlich-irgendjemand-zu-9868091.html?wt_mc=sm.red.ho.mastodon.mastodon.md_beitraege.md_beitraege

I wrote about the potential downsides of using the concept of introversion to negotiate return-to-office policies. There may be better ways of identifying your needs.

I acknowledge that it's uncomfortable using the language of disorder to describe yourself, but it may unlock access to accommodations.

Special thanks to Dr Tseen Khoo at The Research Whisperer for encouraging me to develop these ideas into an article.

https://researchwhisperer.org/2024/08/20/talking-out-of-school-counting-the-cost-of-return-to-office-mandates/

Musikschaffende und Introversion: Pia Marei Hauser beschreibt, wie sich introvertierte Kreative inspirieren lassen und ihre Energie nutzen.

https://orchestergraben.com/introvertiert-und-buehnenmensch-wie-geht-das-zusammen/

#introversion #introvertiert #klassik #klassischemusik #bühne #konzert #concert @classicalmusic @classicalmusicgroup

Me: I don't believe we've been properly introduced.

Them (reaching out to shake hands): Oh! Well, hello, I'm—

Me: No, no, no. I didn't say I *wanted* to be introduced.


#introversion

Dear extroverts: an hour and a half on the phone is very hard on introverts. Please consider texting instead, or if you must call, keep it to thirty minutes or less, and listen to the cues when we are trying to get off the phone with you. #introversion

We talk about working on the weekend as though it's something terrible, but honestly I'd rather work 16 hours on a Saturday than spend half an afternoon at an 8-year-old's birthday party.


#WorkLifeBalance #introversion

Blog post: Rachel Cohen's "A Chance Meeting: American Encounters" is a wonderful book offering vignettes of meetings between individuals who helped to shape American culture. Mark Twain and Willa Cather, William James and Gertrude Stein, and others. The conversations are interesting in themselves; they also have me thinking about how encounters with people and books have shaped the person I've become.

https://johnrakestraw.com/post/chance-meetings-and-the-forming-of-an-identity/

#amReading @bookstodon #MarkTwain #introversion #Solitude

#UCAS triage today. School references referring to applicants as "Good _but_ quiet" as if #introversion is pathological. Get bent.

Sometimes, all it takes to solve a problem is to have a simple conversation with the right person.

I refer to these as “intractable problems.”


#introversion