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Flipboard Tech Desk<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://flipboard.com/@npr" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">@<span>npr</span></a></span>’s Windsor Johnston recently went beyond the usual dating apps and “out of journalistic curiosity — and maybe a bruised ego the size of a small carry-on — I decided to try what everyone else was whispering about: I went on a date with an AI boyfriend.” Johnston writes about her experience, which was equal parts hilarious and awkward and a little heartbreaking, too. If you read only one story today, you could do a lot worse than this:</p><p><a href="https://flip.it/9ivQWz" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="">flip.it/9ivQWz</span><span class="invisible"></span></a></p><p><a href="https://flipboard.social/tags/Tech" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Tech</span></a> <a href="https://flipboard.social/tags/AI" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AI</span></a> <a href="https://flipboard.social/tags/Dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Dating</span></a> <a href="https://flipboard.social/tags/DatingApps" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>DatingApps</span></a></p>
mk30<p>"you need to learn that y'all women over 40 aren't the prize. us men are." <a href="https://www.youtube.com/shorts/OV9sWRj43xw" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="">youtube.com/shorts/OV9sWRj43xw</span><span class="invisible"></span></a></p><p><a href="https://tilde.zone/tags/feminism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>feminism</span></a> <a href="https://tilde.zone/tags/patriarchy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>patriarchy</span></a> <a href="https://tilde.zone/tags/dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>dating</span></a></p>
JiKo<p>Bible quotes in the bio, profile or in posts are a red flag?</p><p><a href="https://mastodon.world/tags/Polls" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Polls</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.world/tags/Christian" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Christian</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.world/tags/Survey" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Survey</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.world/tags/Catholic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Catholic</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.world/tags/Religious" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Religious</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.world/tags/Bible" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Bible</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.world/tags/Poll" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Poll</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.world/tags/Spiritual" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Spiritual</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.world/tags/RedFlags" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>RedFlags</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.world/tags/Dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Dating</span></a></p>
Evan Genest<p><a href="https://c.im/tags/analytics" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>analytics</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/marketing" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>marketing</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>dating</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/statistics" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>statistics</span></a> </p><p>Todo:<br><a href="https://www.udemy.com/course/learn-matomo-goals-easily-web-analytics-101/" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">udemy.com/course/learn-matomo-</span><span class="invisible">goals-easily-web-analytics-101/</span></a></p>
Rev.Hans@SacredBodies.ca :mstdnca:<p>Men — One of the best things I’ve read recently on marriage, men, women, sex, love. Enjoy! </p><p><a href="https://mstdn.ca/tags/menshealth" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>menshealth</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.ca/tags/marriage" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>marriage</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.ca/tags/love" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>love</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.ca/tags/sex" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>sex</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.ca/tags/dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>dating</span></a> <a href="https://www.gamintraveler.com/2025/07/11/why-european-men-dont-lose-interest-like-american-men-do-after-marriage/?utm_source=flipboard&amp;utm_content=JanetteSpeyer/magazine/FLIPBOARD+USER+GROUP" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">gamintraveler.com/2025/07/11/w</span><span class="invisible">hy-european-men-dont-lose-interest-like-american-men-do-after-marriage/?utm_source=flipboard&amp;utm_content=JanetteSpeyer/magazine/FLIPBOARD+USER+GROUP</span></a></p>
Robert Kingett<p>I'm secretly a romance writer because when a gay guy asks me what I am looking for, I can point to key books in my back catalog and have him read 300 paged, portable, examples of what I'm looking for. It'll be the ultimate guide, all in paperbacks! <a href="https://caneandable.social/tags/Dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Dating</span></a> <span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/romancelandia" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">@<span>romancelandia</span></a></span> <a href="https://caneandable.social/tags/Romance" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Romance</span></a> <a href="https://caneandable.social/tags/RomanceLandia" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>RomanceLandia</span></a></p>
UK<p><a href="https://www.europesays.com/uk/255591/" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="">europesays.com/uk/255591/</span><span class="invisible"></span></a> The cost of love: Europe’s most expensive and cheapest cities for a date <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/CostOfLiving" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>CostOfLiving</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>dating</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/EU" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>EU</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Europe" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Europe</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/European" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>European</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Love" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Love</span></a></p>
UK<p><a href="https://www.europesays.com/uk/253551/" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="">europesays.com/uk/253551/</span><span class="invisible"></span></a> ‘Banksying’ is a toxic new dating trend. What is it? <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/advice" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>advice</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/AdviceAndRelationships" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AdviceAndRelationships</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/and" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>and</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>dating</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/DatingU0026Personals" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>DatingU0026Personals</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Explainer" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Explainer</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Health" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Health</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/mental" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>mental</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/MentalHealth" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>MentalHealth</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/not" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>not</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Personals" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Personals</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/relationships" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>relationships</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Romance" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Romance</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Troubled" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Troubled</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/TroubledRelationships" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>TroubledRelationships</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/TTP" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>TTP</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/TTPExplainerNotVisual" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>TTPExplainerNotVisual</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/u0026" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>u0026</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/UnitedStates" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>UnitedStates</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/us" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>us</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/USA" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>USA</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/visual" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>visual</span></a></p>
Dining & Cooking<p>20 Best Restaurants in New Orleans (2025) <a href="https://www.diningandcooking.com/2170133/20-best-restaurants-in-new-orleans-2025/" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">diningandcooking.com/2170133/2</span><span class="invisible">0-best-restaurants-in-new-orleans-2025/</span></a> <a href="https://vive.im/tags/Categories" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Categories</span></a>:Restaurants <a href="https://vive.im/tags/Dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Dating</span></a>:GoodFor:DateNight <a href="https://vive.im/tags/FineDining" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>FineDining</span></a> <a href="https://vive.im/tags/Format" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Format</span></a>:EITW <a href="https://vive.im/tags/Format" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Format</span></a>:Evergreen <a href="https://vive.im/tags/francais" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>francais</span></a> <a href="https://vive.im/tags/france" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>france</span></a> <a href="https://vive.im/tags/French" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>French</span></a> <a href="https://vive.im/tags/FrenchFineDining" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>FrenchFineDining</span></a> <a href="https://vive.im/tags/GoodFor" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>GoodFor</span></a>:GoodFor:Couples <a href="https://vive.im/tags/GoodFor" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>GoodFor</span></a>:GoodFor:GoingInAGroup <a href="https://vive.im/tags/GoodFor" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>GoodFor</span></a>:GoodFor:GoingSolo <a href="https://vive.im/tags/GoodFor" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>GoodFor</span></a>:GoodFor:GoingWithFriends <a href="https://vive.im/tags/GoodFor" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>GoodFor</span></a>:GoodFor:Locals <a href="https://vive.im/tags/GoodFor" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>GoodFor</span></a>:GoodFor:TakingParents <a href="https://vive.im/tags/GoodFor" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>GoodFor</span></a>:GoodFor:Tourists <a href="https://vive.im/tags/Restaurants" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Restaurants</span></a></p>
yourautisticlife<p><strong>Dating: The Attitude Problem</strong></p><p>To find a lasting relationship, you have to accept those relationships that won’t last.</p>Photo from <a href="https://pxhere.com/en/photo/292393" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">PxHere</a><p>I’m a strange creature. At 53, I have a fair amount of experience at living. However, when I joined the dating world just over three years ago, I had no experience to speak of regarding dating, and the minute experience I did have was from over 26 years earlier. There were no dating apps back then.</p><p>My inexperience led me early on to naively accept behaviors that I shouldn’t have accepted. There was the “polyamorous” woman who used me as a pawn to get her husband jealous. There was also the woman I went on a date with, but who seemed only interested in getting a free meal and promoting her business. They both displayed behavior that now would put me off from pursuing anything with them.</p><p>I’m a quick learner, however. My many adventures and misadventures quickly taught me what I call <em>an aphorism of love</em>:</p><blockquote><p>To find a lasting relationship, you have to accept those relationships that won’t last.</p></blockquote><p>I don’t see any way around this aphorism. For one thing, the statistics are operating against us. Still, I was in a relationship that lasted 26 years. We were married for 22 of those years. She was my first relationship. Wow! Lucky, right? I had beaten the odds! I thought I was lucky, until we started talking divorce. Absolutely nothing is guaranteed.</p><p>Now, I do run from time to time into those who will declare that the dating apps have always been or have become a large wasteland in which it is impossible to find anyone. I accept that this has been their experience, but such hasn’t been my experience.</p><p>I expect the vast majority of such individuals to be straight, monogamous, vanilla, and neurotypical. In all likelihood, they are also trapped by the dominant ideology of our times, capitalism. This entrapment has multiple manifestations. There’s the fact that wages have not risen at the same rate as inflation. This means that they have to work harder to keep their standard of living. This leaves less time and energy for forming connections of any kind, including romantic ones.</p><p>Another way in which this entrapment manifest itself is the desire for optimization. A lot of people these days get into debt while trying to impress the crowd. They buy expensive things that they cannot afford. People in this type of situation are likely to look for a specific type of mate. Someone who plays well the capitalist game.</p><p>Thus, these folks will compare their dates against an unrealistic ideal of what their mate should be. Thus, their experience on the dating apps will be molded by this attitude. They won’t connect, and when they connect, they will run at the first sign that their date does not hold up to their ideal.</p><p class=""><em>Your Autistic Life is supported by readers like you. Use one of the links below to support my writing! Thank you.</em></p> <a class="" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/membership-join/" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">Join Us</a> <a class="" href="https://www.bonfire.com/store/your-autistic-life/" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">Bonfire Merch</a> <p>My own experience has been different. For a start, my demographics make me a minority. I’m pansexual, polyamorous, into BDSM, and neurodivergent. I do not hide these things from my dating profile. These characteristics make me unpalatable to a lot of people. In addition, I have my own dealbreakers which narrow the pool of candidates even further.</p><p>For instance, I do not date cops or the military. Yes, I know for a fact that this requirement of mine has cost me some potential matches. Someone I had contacted, who was polite about it, told me as much. In addition, I pass on all the straight folks. I just don’t think that the random straight individual has any idea of what being queer entails.</p><p>My demographics and my preferences make it extremely difficult to meet anybody by just going to social events. I do go to social events that have nothing to with dating. My chance of running there into someone who is looking for a mate and is going to be okay with me being pansexual, being polyamorous, being into BDSM, and being neurodivergent are extremely slim.</p><p>I also go to queer events, events for neurodivergent people, or events for people into BDSM. When I go to these events, there is a greater chance at compatibility. However, it is usually the case that the people I find there are going to be compatible with me in all respects, except one. This is highly frustrating. Do not make the mistake of thinking that one characteristic entails the other, especially if you are not part of these minorities. For instance, pansexual people are not all polyamorous.</p><p>So this leaves me with online dating. I’ll note here that all my relationships started online. Yes, even the one with my ex-wife, which started in 1996. It started through email. I did not start using the dating apps until after our divorce, in 2022, however. Truth be told, I’ve had my successes on these apps. I’ve heard from several people that they got absolutely nothing out of them.</p><p>So what counts as <em>success</em>? As far as I see it, a match is already success writ small. Then there’s having a nice date, which is a bigger success. Then there’s being intimate with your dating prospect, which is even better. Don’t get me wrong, some of these encounters were unmitigated disasters. The net balance, however, is a positive one overall. Ultimately, what I seek is a lasting relationship. However, I feel the need to point out that all relationships last, right up until the moment that they don’t. I do not possess the crystal ball to tell me which relationship will last, and which won’t. Moreover, remember my aphorism of love:</p><blockquote><p>To find a lasting relationship, you have to accept those relationships that won’t last.</p></blockquote><p>Because of this, I always approach relationships with an open mind, and assume that they will last. Yes, I’m most likely mistaken, but it does not matter. I let myself be pleasantly surprised by my partners, and I hope to pleasantly surprise them too. It has happened. And yes, opening yourself to pleasant surprises, means you can also get unpleasant surprises. I’ll say that almost every time a relationship has ended, it was an unpleasant surprise. And yet, these are inevitable.</p><p>Furthermore, I do not attempt to make my partners fit into some narrow confine of how my “ideal” partner should be. Now, I do have boundaries. Most of these revolve around money. However, if a partner does not respect those boundaries, the result is not typically a breakup.</p><p>Finally, I’ve rejected the ideals of capitalism. I do not aim to optimize my life, or my relationship, and I do not impose such optimizations on my partners. I aim to be present in my partner’s life, and so I do not favor living the rat race that capitalism likes to foist on us.</p><p>I am currently partnered with my boyfriend. We’re at the nine or ten months mark, right now. The longest relationship I’ve been in after my divorce. We found each other on OkCupid. Prior to this, I was in a seven-month relationship with a girl. We found each other on Feeld. Other than these two post-divorce relationships, I’ve had unplanned one-night stands, and some relationships that lasted one weekend, or a few days.</p><p>It may be a function of my demographics, but I’ve spent a fair amount of time thinking about how I present on the dating apps. I use all the space at my disposal to fill out a thorough profile. There is little I hate more than profiles that have pictures but are otherwise empty. It is pretty much guaranteed that you are going to get likes from misguided people who are trying to fit square peg into round holes, even with a filled profile. How much more of those are you going to get if your profile is empty, and how many of them will treat you as an object? You’ve given them no reason to do otherwise with your empty profile.</p><p>Moreover, I go to the apps with the attitude that nobody <em>owes</em> me anything. I’ve had matches, and sometimes short-lived relationships, where I was thanked for my understanding and kindness when things, for reasons that have nothing to do with <em>me, </em>unravelled and the relationship came to an end. I cannot, and <em>do not want</em> to force someone into a relationship with me if it is not in the cards.</p><p>I’ll conclude by saying that attitude is not the <em>entire</em> reason people do not find success on the dating apps, but it is a <em>significant</em> reason. The choice of the dating app, and even geography can affect someone’s experience significantly, and yet the effect of one’s attitude is non-negligible.</p><p><a rel="nofollow noopener" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/attitude/" target="_blank">#attitude</a> <a rel="nofollow noopener" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/autisticwriters/" target="_blank">#AutisticWriters</a> <a rel="nofollow noopener" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/capitalism/" target="_blank">#capitalism</a> <a rel="nofollow noopener" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/dating/" target="_blank">#Dating</a> <a rel="nofollow noopener" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/love/" target="_blank">#love</a> <a rel="nofollow noopener" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/onlinedating/" target="_blank">#OnlineDating</a> <a rel="nofollow noopener" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/relationships/" target="_blank">#relationships</a> <a rel="nofollow noopener" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/yourautisticlife/" target="_blank">#YourAutisticLife</a></p>
50+ Music<p>"Save the Best for Last" is a song by American singer and actress <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/VanessaWilliams" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>VanessaWilliams</span></a>, released in January 1992 as the third single from her second studio album, <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/TheComfortZone" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>TheComfortZone</span></a> (1991). The song was written by Phil Galdston, <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/WendyWaldman" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>WendyWaldman</span></a>, and <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/JonLind" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>JonLind</span></a>. It is a <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/ballad" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>ballad</span></a> about a young female admirer of a single man who stands by and watches as the object of her desires goes through years of <a href="https://mastodon.online/tags/dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>dating</span></a>, before he finally unexpectedly decides to initiate a relationship with her. <br><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5EdmHSTwmWY" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="">youtube.com/watch?v=5EdmHSTwmWY</span><span class="invisible"></span></a></p>
Aby--not fast, just furious<p>I admin a local singles group on Facebook and here are some of the stories...</p><p>Today, a discussion started about what people are doing on the weekend, I mentioned that classes start again on Monday so I'll probably be reading. This lead to one of the guys in the group ranting about the state of university education and how it's "been dumbed down so the foreign students pass!" (it hasn't)</p><p>So, I deleted his comment and gave him a warning that we aren't doing a racism in the group, and if he kept it up he'd be banned.</p><p>Then one of the women jumped in with a "not to be racist, but I agree" comment.. so she got banned immediately (and banned from the kink group I also run).</p><p>The guy came back with a whole "well tell me how I was racist, I didn't single out a specific race!" multi-paragraph screed.. so he got banned as well.</p><p>"Anyone else interested in getting banned? Because I have the time to spend this afternoon."</p><p>Like, how did you all think that was going to go? Sheesh.</p><p><a href="https://aus.social/tags/dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>dating</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/relationship" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>relationship</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Facebook" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Facebook</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/FacebookGroups" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>FacebookGroups</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/RegionalAustralia" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>RegionalAustralia</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Bathurst" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Bathurst</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/BathurstNSW" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>BathurstNSW</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Australia" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Australia</span></a></p>
UK<p><a href="https://www.europesays.com/uk/249915/" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="">europesays.com/uk/249915/</span><span class="invisible"></span></a> Is Jennifer Aniston Dating Hypnotist Jim Curtis? Pair Spotted in Romantic Vacation in Spain <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>dating</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/DatingRumors" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>DatingRumors</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/EU" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>EU</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Europe" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Europe</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Friends" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Friends</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Hypnotist" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Hypnotist</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/JenniferAniston" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>JenniferAniston</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/JimCurtis" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>JimCurtis</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Rumors" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Rumors</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Spain" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Spain</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/vacation" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>vacation</span></a></p>
Steve Dustcircle 🌹<p>Beyond <a href="https://masto.ai/tags/words" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>words</span></a>: <br>The 200-year-old hidden <a href="https://masto.ai/tags/languages" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>languages</span></a> of <a href="https://masto.ai/tags/dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>dating</span></a></p><p><a href="https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20250703-the-200-year-old-hidden-languages-of-dating?ocid=global_future_rss" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">bbc.com/future/article/2025070</span><span class="invisible">3-the-200-year-old-hidden-languages-of-dating?ocid=global_future_rss</span></a></p>
Mx Verda<p>Sex is physical communication. <br>I need to know that [the person I want to communicate intimate things with] knows: possible outcomes (lol tho), possible risks, and is enthusiastic to continue. </p><p>To feel sure that they know it (and feel comfortable saying no to me), I need them to demonstrate key details and confidence to relay their desires.</p><p>But you can still *talk* to people you don't want to fuck, right? Like... cis het people aren't really going around only spending time on people they want to fuck... RIGHT?! </p><p><a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/SexEd" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>SexEd</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/sex" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>sex</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/sexual" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>sexual</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/fuck" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>fuck</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/bang" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>bang</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/intimacy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>intimacy</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/DisabilityIntimacy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>DisabilityIntimacy</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/couple" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>couple</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/couples" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>couples</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/threesome" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>threesome</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/foursome" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>foursome</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/orgy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>orgy</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/partner" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>partner</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/partners" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>partners</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/closeness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>closeness</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>dating</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/date" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>date</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/marriage" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>marriage</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/romance" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>romance</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/EroticRomance" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>EroticRomance</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/Ero" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Ero</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/Erotic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Erotic</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/Sensual" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Sensual</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/genital" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>genital</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/genitals" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>genitals</span></a></p>
Leipzig<p>Powerpoint statt Superlike — kreuzer online</p><p>​Wer die große Liebe oder zumindest eine Beziehung sucht, hat viele Mög…<br><a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Leipzig" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Leipzig</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Deutschland" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Deutschland</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Deutsch" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Deutsch</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/DE" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>DE</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Schlagzeilen" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Schlagzeilen</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Headlines" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Headlines</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Nachrichten" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Nachrichten</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/News" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>News</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Europe" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Europe</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Europa" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Europa</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/EU" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>EU</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Dating</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Germany" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Germany</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/kreuzer" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>kreuzer</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/leipzig" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>leipzig</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Sachsen" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Sachsen</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Veranstaltung" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Veranstaltung</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/veranstaltung" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>veranstaltung</span></a>-leipzig <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Veranstaltunge" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Veranstaltunge</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Veranstaltungen" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Veranstaltungen</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/veranstaltungsbericht" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>veranstaltungsbericht</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/veranstaltungser%C3%B6ffnung" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>veranstaltungseröffnung</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Veranstaltungshinweis" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Veranstaltungshinweis</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/Veranstaltungsort" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Veranstaltungsort</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/veranstaltungsreihe" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>veranstaltungsreihe</span></a> <a href="https://pubeurope.com/tags/veranstaltungstipp" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>veranstaltungstipp</span></a><br><a href="https://www.europesays.com/de/244926/" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="">europesays.com/de/244926/</span><span class="invisible"></span></a></p>
satire<p>Ok, I can’t say this more clearly folks, leaving the restroom door unlocked at Starbucks is not an acceptable way of meeting new people. </p><p><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/humor" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>humor</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>dating</span></a></p>
Em :official_verified:<p>By the way, this article I wrote for Pride Month on queer dating apps is also applicable to anyone using any dating apps. </p><p>I highly recommend a read if <br>you are currently using a dating app, <br>or have been in the past and have not deleted your data and account yet: </p><p><a href="https://www.privacyguides.org/articles/2025/06/24/queer-dating-apps-beware-who-you-trust/" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">privacyguides.org/articles/202</span><span class="invisible">5/06/24/queer-dating-apps-beware-who-you-trust/</span></a></p><p><a href="https://infosec.exchange/tags/Privacy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Privacy</span></a> <a href="https://infosec.exchange/tags/DatingApps" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>DatingApps</span></a> <a href="https://infosec.exchange/tags/Dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Dating</span></a> <a href="https://infosec.exchange/tags/QueerDatingApps" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>QueerDatingApps</span></a> <a href="https://infosec.exchange/tags/SurveillanceCapitalism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>SurveillanceCapitalism</span></a> <a href="https://infosec.exchange/tags/AgeVerification" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AgeVerification</span></a></p>
Calamitous ORTBO :mstdn:<p>Dear men who have had <a href="https://mstdn.ca/tags/vasectomies" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>vasectomies</span></a>. There are <a href="https://mstdn.ca/tags/childfree" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>childfree</span></a> women looking for you, don't give up. In this <a href="https://mstdn.ca/tags/dystopia" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>dystopia</span></a> called 2025, you are unicorns. <br><a href="https://mstdn.ca/tags/dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>dating</span></a></p>
Freezenet<p>Dating Companies Bumble and Match Group Announce Layoffs</p><p>Layoffs are hitting some of the biggest names in online dating, seemingly confirming our earlier findings that online dating doesn't work.</p><p><a href="https://www.freezenet.ca/dating-companies-bumble-and-match-group-announce-layoffs/" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">freezenet.ca/dating-companies-</span><span class="invisible">bumble-and-match-group-announce-layoffs/</span></a></p><p><a href="https://noc.social/tags/Business" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Business</span></a> <a href="https://noc.social/tags/News" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>News</span></a> <a href="https://noc.social/tags/Bumble" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Bumble</span></a> <a href="https://noc.social/tags/Dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Dating</span></a> <a href="https://noc.social/tags/hinge" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>hinge</span></a> <a href="https://noc.social/tags/layoffs" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>layoffs</span></a> <a href="https://noc.social/tags/Match" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Match</span></a> <a href="https://noc.social/tags/OKCupid" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>OKCupid</span></a> <a href="https://noc.social/tags/OnlineDating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>OnlineDating</span></a> <a href="https://noc.social/tags/Tinder" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Tinder</span></a></p>