I got rid of most of my facial hair today. I am enjoying the process of playfully figuring out who I am inside so I can just stop all of my masking.
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Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 567 , Saturday 17/05/2025
Saturday started just before 7am as I woke to a dreary & unpromising morning.
I got down just as Mrs S was finishing her breakfast.
I made my breakfast & then settled down with my audiobook while I drank my coffee.
I did my chores & then squeezed in an hour or so playing Witcher 3.
Mrs S got back sometime after midday so I made us lunch then Saturday afternoon was spent catching up on Mrs S’s cop shows.
We finished our Star Wars fest this evening, I struck me that the series has followed me for the vast majority of my life & it still entertains after all this time!
Final Thoughts.
Sometimes I wonder what the point is - in fact I wonder if there is actually a point.
Hey ho day by day until the last day.
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 
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I slipped beyond the ordinary for six days and will likely dissolve into that space again in pursuit of deeper healing and escape.
Engaging in a quiet resistance against my devices to restore my connection with the natural world and the profound resonance found within the pages of books.
Yes, I’m an autistic and transgender soul, living the anarchist-hippie lifestyle.
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#WritersCoffeeClub #WCC 2025.05.17 /2— How do you ‘write what you know’?
My first post was show not tell. This one I will tell you that I am SURPRISED how much I know, have experienced, or have learned gets into my stories. I just add those details when it helps the story. I generally write in first person, so that type of thing makes the story more visceral. Moreover, if you can convince the reader about the story's verisimilitude, it makes it easier to get away with lampshading things I don't know, like 16 Psyche (an asteroid) Mars transfer orbits…
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I mean, there seems to be a momentary relief of the sensation of puffy hands after a good flap?
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You may have come across the concept that #actuallyAutistic people form something like a different culture. Like, say, someone from Japan who suddenly finds themselves in Italy. Except we don’t know we’re Japanese, we look Italian, and everyone expects us to behave like we know the culture. But we don’t, and as we grow up, we constantly behave in ways that would be fine in this fictional Japan, but are considered inappropriate in this fictional Italy.
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Want to unmask (sometimes), but scared of losing your job or the people you depend on?
Learn how to deal with the anxiety so you can actually do that...without defaulting to people pleasing, writing that off as a fantasy that's only available to other people, losing relationships you want to keep, or shutting/melting down.
We start Friday.
It's been raining nonstop for a day and a half, and it's going to keep going. Hakka can't go up to the roof to fight with his friends; he's bored and decided to sleep. My feisty son. And all that rain throws me off balance, so we get depressed together.
#caturday #cats #catsofmastodon #actuallyautistic
Whether someone can explain their experiences well or not, what they’re experiencing is real.
Everything is too bright and too loud today. No idea why.
And I’ve come home to recover, only to find all of our neighbours are using power tools.
Every single one of them I swear.
Our next door neighbour out the back and someone else out the front. I can’t escape it.
Headphones are only nearly blocking it out.
I just need quiet.
CassandraAlso thinking about exes, in particular the categories “ones who loved me for myself” and “ones who tried to love me despite it.”
Pour apaiser ces phases anxieuses dues aux transports, une des solutions est de mettre son casque ou ses écouteurs, et d'écouter des audios ou de la musique, une méthode proche du Brain Flossing. “L'écoute contrebalance avec l'agressivité externe”, souligne le psychanalyste. Une autre astuce est de limiter les notifications de son téléphone, pour éviter la fameuse sur-stimulation responsable de ces états de stress lors des trajets, et éviter une augmentation de la charge mentale. Les exercices de respirations s'avèrent également efficaces. Christian Richomme conseille un exercice simple : “Pour faire descendre l'anxiété dans ces situations, on peut respirer en gonflant le ventre à l'inspiration, pour faire descendre l'air le plus bas possible, puis bloquer sa respiration quelques secondes, et enfin expirer doucement.” Il ajoute qu'“en faisant cet exercice de respiration, on profite d'une capacité pulmonaire plus importante et on fait baisser le rythme cardiaque”, une façon d'apaiser le corps, et donc l'esprit. De plus, en poussant l'air vers le bas, les muscles du diaphragme se détendent, après avoir été contractés par l'état de stress.
(C'est moi qui souligne.)
Je n'ai pas ces problèmes avec postmarketOS. Je suis injoignable, le mois dernier un dysfonctionnement dans la bibliothèque Mesa empêchait de lancer des applications GTK, et donc la seule application graphique de téléphonie que je connaissais. Mais mon téléphone ne m'impose pas une connexion internet si je n'ai pas besoin de transférer des fichiers, et il ne m'envoie certainement pas de notifications car un quidam aurait liké une publication dans un groupe duquel je ne me serais pas encore désabonnée.
Je me suis remise au protocole IRC avec catgirl(1) : c'est très simple, il suffit d'indiquer un nom de domaine, et optionnellement une liste de salons à rejoindre, un certificat (pour s'authentifier sans mot de passe), un nom d'utilisateurice IRC, un nom d'utilisateurice Unix, son vrai nom, ou/et que l'on veut enregistrer les échanges (pour pouvoir les retrouver plus tard).
On peut aussi tout mettre dans un fichier de configuration, et lancer la commande catgirl $chemin_de_conf/libera-chat.conf.
Ceci est un fichier de configuration valide :
host = irc.libera.chat
cert = $config_catgirl/libera-chat.conf
nick = oceane
et avec je mets mon téléphone sur un stand Miniso à 5 €, je branche mon clavier méca, je fais ma vie, et je reviens ponctuellement pour répondre. C'est très apaisant, et grâce à ce protocole, en trois jours j'ai remis le wifi sur mon téléphone, j'ai réinstallé SXMO, et j'ai codé mes premières lignes d'Emacs-Lisp.
Vous pouvez installer catgirl(1) sous Windows avec le Windows Subsystem Layer, en installant Alpine Linux, en remplaçant 3.17 par 3.21 dans /etc/apk/repos, puis en tapant sudo apk upgrade && sudo apk install catgirl.
Le protocole IRC est littéralement conçu pour poser des questions, y compris avec vos logiciels libres expérimentaux. Le protocole Gemini est conçu pour publier des documents en lecture seule, ce qui le rend particulièrement apaisant -- je le consulte parfois quand je n'arrive pas à dormir, et ça marche aussi bien qu'un simulateur de crépuscule, ou que d'autres produits de bobos vendus à Nature & Découvertes mais oups, c'est public et gratuit.
Je crois que Facebook identifie, puis cible personnellement des personnes manifestant en ligne leur amour propre de manière inappropriée. À cette échelle, c'est proprement inhumain, car on identifie généralement ces personnes pour ne pas les aider, afin de rester en capacité d'aimer autrui : ce faisant, nous devenons complices de la maltraitance numérique.
Une victime de maltraitance confondant communauté et audience et se créant un compte Instagram, Facebook, ou Twitter pour y trouver un groupe de support sans être en capacité d'y partager des ressources sera gaslightée par l'interface à considérer l'attention de centaines de personnes comme un droit. C'est une manifestation d'amour propre intrinsèquement légitime, mais rendue inappropriée par les décisions de développement prises. L'incapacité de partager des ressources contraignant la victime à opter pour de l'intimidation, elle deviendra un troll, ce qui accentuera son isolement et sa souffrance.
GQ France · Les trajets pour aller au travail (métro, voiture, bus) sont mauvais pour votre santé mentale selon les experts
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Even in this hell of a week, I've provided >8 hours of free #tutoring to #ActuallyAutistic & other clients in my community.
Much of this is part of my devaluation of my time & skills, with the caveat of many good explanatory variables.
I think I want to be more confident & I guess, "capitalist-minded" to ease my suffering.
Yet, when you've been on the other side (still am), & know how it feels, the need & desire to help is overwhelming.
Besides, would I even like *that* version of me?
In the BBC Documentary Podcast episode “Autism, Empathy and Psychopaths”, journalist Sue Nelson reflects on being told she scored low empathy during her autism assessment. She questions this label, exploring distinctions between affective and cognitive empathy, and how these concepts are frequently misapplied in clinical settings—especially when autistic communication styles differ.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/p0l9z7bj
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BBCThe Documentary Podcast - Autism, empathy and psychopaths - BBC SoundsWhy society must rethink the damaging stereotypes about autistic people and low empathy.
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While I'm glad that scientists are working against the total disregard for science that rfkjr represents, this Helen Tager-Flusberg that they interviewed seems to be a bit behind the times herself. Aside from still calling it a disorder, she also still describes the spectrum as having two "ends", one end being mild and the other "profound autism". Is she supposed to represent the greater autism research community, or did they just pick someone with more 'conventional' views that would be better accepted by their readership?
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#WritersCoffeeClub #WCC 2025.05.17 — How do you ‘write what you know’?
Oddly enough, though I am a very shy person (and autistic), I am also (or by definition) very observant. I've known and met people from all walks of life (with the help of intermediaries). Bank robbers and other crooks, likely a few mafiosos and judges, business people, engineers, authors. I know gay and trans folk; there are lesbians in the family. I had an evil stepfather. No joke. Evil. And I'm happy he's dead. My mother was a bailbondswoman and did her own bounty hunting, but had poor taste in men. I was able to shoot before I was 10 years old. I even had a pony, who absolutely wanted to kill me and almost did by rolling over in a stream with me on top. I know how to muck out a stall. Got raised by a single mother; as a latchkey kid, I learned to cook at 7 years old so as to not have to eat TV dinners. You know, those aluminum trayed frozen abominations that never had on the interior what was promised on the cardboard exterior? Look up the Galloping Gourmet. My TV hero. There were a succession of dogs. Cats. Building a house. Programmed. Dabbled in writing. Did lots of things. Mostly uninteresting.
Some of it leaks into my stories.
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@Taweret Yeah I struggle with that too. #actuallyautistic
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@avuko
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4. "density," of gaps?
- kidding, I think 
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I mean, after all their lie science, the SPE, Stockholm syndrome, you name it - I want to know which lobes they decided "didn't count." 
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