olena<p><a href="https://mementomori.social/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AuDHD</span></a> time management:<br>I have an appointment at 17:00. It’s in a different town, to which I’ll go by a train, and to the train station I’d go by metro and then walk(when I booked the appointment, there was a direct train there from a nearby station that’s just about an hour walk from here, but it recently got temporarily suspended due to road works)<br>So, the train takes 30-35 minutes, and there’s 10 minutes walk to the address I need from the train station, so I need about an hour to come there, trains are going every six minutes, so, I guess, just to be on the safer side, I have to be on the train station no later than at 15:45. <br>It’s 40 minutes walk to the train station from my line of metro (I could have just transfer to another line, but that other line is old and makes me feel quite claustrophobic, so I absolutely definitely prefer to walk), so to be safe, I need to go out of metro no later than 14:50. <br>On metro, from my station to that station, maps say it’s 40 minutes, but based on previous trips I refuse to believe it’s less than an hour, and what if I will need to miss one train - no, I should count more than an hour. Ok, I guess, to be on metro at around 13:40 should be safe. <br>To the metro, there’s about 800m walking, so, I suppose, I need to plan to go out at 13:15. Which means I have to be already prepared at about 13:00 to have those 15 minutes to check that everything is ok. It takes anything from 10 minutes to an hour to get ready, so I am putting an alarm to start get dressed at 12:00. Oh, and I have to make sure all the documents are ready and I didn’t forget anything, so I have to set another alarm at 11:30 to have time for that.<br>I could go by taxi and the trip would take 45 minutes, but it would cost 40+ euro one way. </p><p>There is no direct bus, and I hesitate using buses with transfers due to a fear to get confused and go somewhere wrong - and generally I have stopped using them when the Covid pandemic began, and have used them just a few times since then, idk why, but I feel very uncomfortable in them compared to trains/metro</p><p>So, for an appointment at 17:00, the alarms start at 11:30. And in the morning I can’t start anything that takes uncertain time to be finished, so the day is basically gone.</p><p>This appointment could have been a phone call, but I al not ok with phone calls, and I don’t trust my APD to get everything right, and it’s just too important to have it by phone because I know I am always stressed so much by the very need to decipher things during a call that I totally forget about all the important stuff I wanted to clarify </p><p>Instead, I took a vacation day for today - with a single purpose to attend this appointment </p><p>I was told: you can’t have <a href="https://mementomori.social/tags/ADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>ADHD</span></a>, you are never late. That’s why. That’s why I am never late - because I manage every timed human interaction this way</p><p>I was told: you don’t have all these diagnoses, they are for people whose life is severely impacted, and yours is ok. That’s. That’s what happens inside when from outside it looks ok and not impacted. </p><p><a href="https://mementomori.social/tags/neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>neurodivergent</span></a> <br><a href="https://mementomori.social/tags/AuditoryProcessingDisorder" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AuditoryProcessingDisorder</span></a> <br><a href="https://mementomori.social/tags/anxiety" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>anxiety</span></a> <br><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyautistic</span></a></span></p>